不要這樣歧視剩女 單身妹子最討厭的五句話(huà)

We know you mean well and you're just trying tomake us feel better, but there are some things singlewomen just wish they didn't have to hear.

作為單身狗，雖然知道你是一片好心，你只是想安慰我們，但是有些話(huà)單身女性就是不愿意聽(tīng)到。

Stop saying things like...

不要再對(duì)她們說(shuō)……

1. "Why are you still single?"

“你怎么還單著?”

Are you asking me to tell you a deep, hidden flaw that drives men away when they get toknow me well enough? Are you asking me to retrace my steps through past relationships andfind the mistake I made that thwarted a walk down the aisle? Or are you asking me thisquestion because you think I've never asked it of myself?

你是不是想問(wèn)我，我身上有什么深藏的隱秘缺陷，以至于對(duì)方一旦了解我，就會(huì)趕緊躲開(kāi)?或者你是不是想讓我回顧一遍我過(guò)去的戀愛(ài)史，找到自己曾經(jīng)犯下的錯(cuò)誤，搞清我是如何一步步走向單身的深淵的?或者你是不是認(rèn)為，我從來(lái)沒(méi)有問(wèn)過(guò)自己這個(gè)問(wèn)題，所以你才要來(lái)問(wèn)問(wèn)我?

2. "He's missing out."

“離開(kāi)你是他的損失。”

This sentence has never made me feel better. Not even for a single second. I always want tosay, "I don't care if he's missing out. I'm missing out right now."

這句話(huà)從來(lái)不曾安慰我。一秒鐘也沒(méi)有過(guò)。我常常想說(shuō)，“我不在乎他有沒(méi)有損失。我現(xiàn)在就感覺(jué)很失落。”

For now, I'm the one who no longer has a plus-one for the wedding next month or a date tothe symphony or a vacation buddy or a dinner partner or someone to have intimateconversations with.

眼下我才是單身的那個(gè)人，下個(gè)月同事的婚禮上不再有家屬可以帶去，去聽(tīng)音樂(lè)會(huì)的時(shí)候沒(méi)有同伴，去度假的時(shí)候沒(méi)有同游者，去吃飯的時(shí)候也沒(méi)有可以說(shuō)體己話(huà)的人了。

3. "Your biological clock must be ticking."

“你的時(shí)間不多了。”

For the love of everything holy. I am neither a clock nor a time bomb. Anyhow，why is itany of your business?

天啊，上帝啊，娘親啊，我要么是一個(gè)時(shí)鐘，要么是一個(gè)定時(shí)炸彈，不過(guò)話(huà)說(shuō)回來(lái)，我是什么東西管你什么事呢?

4. "You're too picky."

“你就是太挑了。”

This usually comes from people who don't know me well at all, have no idea what I'mlooking for in a potential marriage partner and have never met anyone I've dated.

說(shuō)這種話(huà)的人一般對(duì)我并不熟悉，也不知道我在一段通向婚姻的感情中想要的是什么，也沒(méi)見(jiàn)過(guò)任何一位我的前任。

The fact that two people are both single do not make them perfect for each other. There arelots of other variables that factor into the equation.

兩個(gè)人都單身并不意味著他們就是對(duì)方的完美情人，在這個(gè)等式中還有許許多多其他的不可控變量。

5. "You've gotta get out there more."

“你應(yīng)該多出去走走。”

I have attended college, church, conferences, blind dates, speed-dating events and singlesmixers. I've signed up for several online dating sites. I went on more first dates last year thanmost people will go on in a lifetime.

我上過(guò)大學(xué)，去過(guò)教堂，相過(guò)親，甚至參與過(guò)閃速相親和單身聯(lián)誼會(huì)。我在好幾個(gè)在線(xiàn)相親網(wǎng)站上注冊(cè)了會(huì)員。

Please don't imply (or explicitly state) that the reason I'm single is because I'm not tryinghard enough.

請(qǐng)不要暗示(或者明示)我，我之所以還單身，是因?yàn)槲疫€不夠努力。